What does it mean to be Catholic?

In the midst of sending a notice to some (Episcopal) clergy about forming a chapter of the “Society of Catholic Priests” (info at http://www.thescp.org/), I came across this notice of the Roman Catholic bishop of Providence’s latest proclamation (http://ncronline.org/news/politics/ri-hospital-latest-victim-health-care-flap), in which he demands that Catholic Health Association Chief Executive Officer Sister Carol Keehan remove St. Joseph Health Services of Rhode Island from its membership rolls. Why? Because the Catholic Health Association, of which St. Joseph Hospital is a part, supported the health care bill. While the bill included strong safeguards against federal money going towards the availability of abortions, it somehow did not satisfy the Roman Catholic bishops. Bp. Tobin said this support had, “caused serious scandal for many members of the church."
Apparently the scandal of abusing children, and then the episcopal covering up of that abuse, is not of the same magnitude as the “scandal” of a thoughtful, nuanced opposition to abortion as expressed by the good sister and the hospital association.
In the spirit of Godly Play, I wonder - Where do we truly find the joy, hope, and fullness of the Catholic faith, versus a narrow, cramped, judgmental expression of that faith?